Over the years, friends and faithful readers alike have asked me one question more often than any other: What kind of advice can you offer me on romance?While I must have answered this question hundreds of times throughout the years, it continues to resurface constantly, often with a greater sense of urgency. In response to the many queries, I decided to take all my secrets, suggestions, and romantic ideas, and put them down in writing for the world to see.
I know many men, my husband included, who have a flair for romantic ideas, sweet gestures, and spontaneity at the drop of a hat, so it's not impossible to become a "romantic dude," so to speak. Even the most masculine of "macho" men has the ability to plan a romantic dinner, bring home flowers for no reason or simply find the time in a hectic day to express admiration for his woman.The following are some simple romantic ideas that will help you impress your lady without having to go too far out of your way to do so. Prepare to dazzle her.Make a listMake a list of the special days on the calendar that you celebrate together, such as the day you met, your yearly anniversary, or even the anniversary of your first kiss. On these days make a point to spend some quality time together. Cook a special meal (or pick one up on the way home from work). Buy her a card or write her a short letter, and let her know that you didn't forget.Toast to herToast each other when you sit down to dinner. It doesn't need to be over bubbly or wine, but even a glass of water or iced tea. Tell her something you love about her and then drink to it!Reach out and touch herUse the power of touch to make a lasting impression throughout the day. There is no such thing as not having time for a kiss goodbye in the morning or again upon reuniting at the end of the day. And an inviting warm hug or backrub at the end of a stressful day is always appreciated.
Create a photo albumTake pictures often; don't save the camera for holidays and special occasions. Create a visual scrapbook of your everyday life together. Better still, set the timer and pose together. You will both appreciate the warmth of the moment when you see these snapshots in an album down the road.Take note of significant thingsSet something aside for her every day. It might be a newspaper article you read during your commute, a link to a website you came across, or even a story you heard by the office water cooler. She will appreciate that you took a moment to think of her during the course of your day.Be thoughtfulDo something thoughtful for her every day. Whether it's making her a cup of coffee in the morning, sticking a surprise note in her bag, or leaving her a chocolate "kiss" on her pillow before bedtime, everyone loves a romantic surprise.Keep up your appearanceLet her see you at your best. It's ironic that we dress up to meet total strangers but let ourselves go around our nearest and dearest. Most women love to see their men clean-shaven, in great clothes and perhaps wearing a hint of her favorite cologne.Tell her about your moods Be honest if you are feeling stressed or under the weather. Your woman will appreciate your honesty and will know not to take it personally when you come home in a bad mood.Discuss your daySit down together when you get home and relate your daily experiences. The best thing about spending time apart is that it makes you appreciate each other more.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Monday, September 24, 2007
Choose The Best Condom
Choose the best condom brandSome people prefer certain materials and textures when it comes to choosing the best condom. By far the most advanced condom material is a medical polyurethane called Microsheer, which is thinner and stronger than latex. Microsheer condoms are a little pricier, but they're worth every dime for the added sensation that they permit.
For the true player, Microsheer presents a long-awaited step up from the last generation of prophylactics. These jimmy hats transmit body heat, are nonallergenic and have no taste or smell.
This means that your woman won't get a nasty rash and an awful latex taste if she decides to give you oral sex in the middle of the main event. And you thought science was for introverts in lab coats.
Tactylon is another welcome development in the condom industry. Tactylon, like polyurethane, doesn't cause allergic reactions and stretches more comfortably than latex. It also costs a little more, but it's certainly a cheaper alternative to a funeral or a kid.If you aren't ready to make the price jump to polyurethane or Tactylon, there are plenty of cheaper options. You can always pick up the "ribbed for his and her pleasure" studded latex or one of a seemingly unending parade of shaped, colored and flavored condoms.
For the true player, Microsheer presents a long-awaited step up from the last generation of prophylactics. These jimmy hats transmit body heat, are nonallergenic and have no taste or smell.
This means that your woman won't get a nasty rash and an awful latex taste if she decides to give you oral sex in the middle of the main event. And you thought science was for introverts in lab coats.
Tactylon is another welcome development in the condom industry. Tactylon, like polyurethane, doesn't cause allergic reactions and stretches more comfortably than latex. It also costs a little more, but it's certainly a cheaper alternative to a funeral or a kid.If you aren't ready to make the price jump to polyurethane or Tactylon, there are plenty of cheaper options. You can always pick up the "ribbed for his and her pleasure" studded latex or one of a seemingly unending parade of shaped, colored and flavored condoms.
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Sheen-Richards Custody Fight Gets Uglier
Britney and Kevin aren't the only celebs trading vicious jabs in custody court.
On Wednesday, Denise Richards filed a motion to a judge to "protect her children" from her ex-husband Charlie Sheen, hoping that Sheen's overnight privileges with their daughters would be revoked. The 'Two and a Half Men' star and Richards have two daughters together, Sam, 3, and Lola, 2.
Access Hollywood obtained the court papers filed by Richards, and some of the claims the actress makes are sure to be tabloid fodder.
Richards claims that Sheen often exhibits "inappropriate behavior... and conduct," which includes Sheen's "attraction to underage women and his sexual explicitness on the Internet, including revealing his private parts."
In the filing, Richards' nanny also says that daughter Sam has told her Sheen threatened to hit her, and that the actor hits the family dogs. Alvarez goes on to say that Sheen "yells... and routinely curses" in the presence of his children, and that he "completely ignores" his daughter Lola.
In response, Sheen snapped back that Richards "behaves as though she owns our children. She does not. A day of legal reckoning for her is fast approaching." Sheen’s lawyer, Lance Spiegel, also says that nearly "all of these allegations were previously raised and were denied by Mr. Sheen."
I heard Charlie Sheen plays the xxx game with the members from BillionaireCupid.com. That's extremely bad to his daughters. I think Richards is right.
On Wednesday, Denise Richards filed a motion to a judge to "protect her children" from her ex-husband Charlie Sheen, hoping that Sheen's overnight privileges with their daughters would be revoked. The 'Two and a Half Men' star and Richards have two daughters together, Sam, 3, and Lola, 2.
Access Hollywood obtained the court papers filed by Richards, and some of the claims the actress makes are sure to be tabloid fodder.
Richards claims that Sheen often exhibits "inappropriate behavior... and conduct," which includes Sheen's "attraction to underage women and his sexual explicitness on the Internet, including revealing his private parts."
In the filing, Richards' nanny also says that daughter Sam has told her Sheen threatened to hit her, and that the actor hits the family dogs. Alvarez goes on to say that Sheen "yells... and routinely curses" in the presence of his children, and that he "completely ignores" his daughter Lola.
In response, Sheen snapped back that Richards "behaves as though she owns our children. She does not. A day of legal reckoning for her is fast approaching." Sheen’s lawyer, Lance Spiegel, also says that nearly "all of these allegations were previously raised and were denied by Mr. Sheen."
I heard Charlie Sheen plays the xxx game with the members from BillionaireCupid.com. That's extremely bad to his daughters. I think Richards is right.
Monday, September 17, 2007
Recognize when she’s receptive and when she’s NOT
It's important that you cultivate the ability to recognize when a woman is "open and receptive" to you, and when she's not. When she looks at you, does she look away? Does she look down or to the SIDE when she looks away? As you become better and better at seeing receptive "states" in women, you'll find that your success will improve SUBSTANTIALLY.
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Finger Techniques
Using your fingers on a woman's vagina can reap amazing results -- given that you do it right. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo and amount of fingers.
So today's tip is going to offer up a bunch of ways that you can use your fingers on a woman. But before you get to work, there's one thing that's certain: A woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina. You can't just shove your fingers inside her or rub her clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So, remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.
The rubber
The clitoris is the place to be for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in circular motions. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should you go so fast that you end up losing focus.
If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside the vagina at a rhythmic pace. Take cues from her reactions to see if she's one of these women.
The fastest finger
Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, then using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.
You'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.
The helping hand
If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll keep getting wetter. While using the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina. The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. And it's not a race; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know.
The screw
In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and come out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.
Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.
The G-spot indicator
Sitting in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your finger(s) inside her and make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.
The shocker
If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, then this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinky finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways, that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.
Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina -- it may lead to and infection.
The slider
This one needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver. can't put my finger on itManipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.
Until next time, keep those fingers neat and trim, and show her what you can do with them.
So today's tip is going to offer up a bunch of ways that you can use your fingers on a woman. But before you get to work, there's one thing that's certain: A woman needs to be revved up and ready to go before you can manipulate her vagina. You can't just shove your fingers inside her or rub her clitoris without ensuring arousal first. So, remember to turn her on before you introduce her to your hands.
The rubber
The clitoris is the place to be for most women. When she's adequately self-lubricated, or you put some water-based lube on your fingers, use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub her clitoris softly in circular motions. Her reaction will let you know that you're on to something. Continue your pace and slowly begin to increase speed. At no point, however, should you go so fast that you end up losing focus.
If she yells out something like "Don't stop!" then don't stop. Some women, however, like it when you take a break from the clitoris and proceed to insert those very same fingers inside the vagina at a rhythmic pace. Take cues from her reactions to see if she's one of these women.
The fastest finger
Does your woman prefer to have slow, exaggerated sex, or hop up and down on you like a bunny? If it's the latter, then using your middle finger to go in and out of her at high speeds may be beneficial in the orgasm department.
You'd be best served to position yourself in front of her vagina (that is, spread her legs open and kneel in between them). That way, you can keep your hand straight and ensure that your finger(s) is (are) going in at full capacity. It also lessens the chances of missing your target.
The helping hand
If you can manage to use both hands at different tempos, she'll keep getting wetter. While using the tips of your fingers on one hand to rub her clitoris in a circular motion, use the index and middle fingers of the other hand to glide in and out of her vagina. The multiple sensations will serve to increase her chances of reaching orgasm. And it's not a race; you don't have to go as fast as humanly possible. Just keep a steady rhythm. If she wants it faster, she'll let you know.
The screw
In the spirit of the "fastest finger" technique, you'll need to use your index and middle fingers for this one. Again, sit between her legs and start off with the palm of your hand facing down. Insert your fingers all the way in, then turn your hand so that your palm is facing up and come out. Repeat it as often as necessary until she reaches orgasm.
Tip: When you turn your hand so that your palm faces up, tap her clitoris with your thumb each time.
The G-spot indicator
Sitting in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your finger(s) inside her and make a "come hither" motion. Your objective is to try to tap her belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting her G-spot. Don't get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by her reaction, keep the same pace or increase speed.
The shocker
If you and your woman enjoy experimenting and you've explored the back end before, then this one may be quite enjoyable for her. While you're using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinky finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways, that is, your palm would be facing her thigh). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously.
Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, you cannot place that same finger into her vagina -- it may lead to and infection.
The slider
This one needs good lubrication. With your index and middle fingers, start off by placing the tips of your fingers on either side of her clitoris, then glide down and make your way inside her vagina. Get back to where you started and keep repeating this maneuver. can't put my finger on itManipulating the vagina to orgasm is not as difficult as you may think. Once you manage to arouse her mind, her body will follow. And of course, you should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.
Until next time, keep those fingers neat and trim, and show her what you can do with them.
Monday, August 20, 2007
11 Foods To Increase Libido
What's the one thing that you and your girlfriend like to do besides have sex? Well, the two of you might like to ingest some sustenance to supply your bodies with the energy required for an all-night "love-a-thon." Now, what if you could eat food that would also serve to increase libido and result in awesome sex? Well, you can.
Here are 11 foods that will provide the essential fuel to spark your sexual appetite and increase libido.
1- Celery While celery may not be the first food that comes to mind when you're thinking sex, it can be a fantastic source food for sexual stimulation. This is because it contains androsterone, an odorless hormone released through male perspiration and turns women on.
How to enjoy this libido food: Celery is best eaten raw. Wash and cut some, and munch away.
2- Raw oystersThis is one of the classic sexy foods. Oysters are high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production. Oysters also contain dopamine, a hormone known to increase libido. Also, the experience of shucking a raw oyster is erotic. Try incorporating it into your foreplay -- feed her and have her feed you. The slippery taste sensation and the mere act of shucking should get you both in the mood.
How to enjoy this libido food: Scrub the shells thoroughly to get any dirt or bacteria off. Pry them open and place them on a bed of ice, squeeze some fresh lemon onto them if you like, and then start shucking away.
3- BananasBananas contain the bromelain enzyme, which is believed to increase libido in men. Additionally, they are good sources of potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin, which increase the body's overall energy levels.
How to enjoy this libido food: Place them on a dish in various states of "undress" and have your lady slowly eat some for you. Then gobble yours down and get to work.
4- AvocadoThe Aztecs called the avocado tree ahuacatl or "testicle tree." While avocados can indeed look like that body part, they contain high levels of folic acid, which helps metabolize proteins, thus giving you more energy. They also contain vitamin B6 (a nutrient that increases male hormone production) and potassium (which helps regulate a woman's thyroid gland), two elements that help increase libido in both men and women.
How to enjoy this libido food: Cut one in half, scoop out the insides with your fingers, and then get your woman to lick it off.
5- Almonds (or nuts in general) Almonds are a prime source of essential fatty acids. These are vital as they provide the raw material for a man's healthy production of hormones. Additionally, the smell of almonds is purported to arouse passion in females. Try lighting some almond-scented candles to encourage her mood and snack on some (but not too many) yourself to store up energy for your performance.
How to enjoy this libido food: Eat them raw (with no added salt or sweetness). Or, crush some fresh almonds and sprinkle them on your salad to get the energy you need.
6- Mangoes, peaches and strawberries What can be more fun than sinking your teeth into a drippy, sticky-sweet fruit? Probably doing that as a prelude to (or during) sex. All of the above fruits and their shapes, textures and succulence are erotically suggestive and can be fun to use amid foreplay. Try dribbling the juices over your bodies and licking up the residue as an erotic game. It makes for a great (and tasty) way to discover each other's bodies.
How to enjoy this libido food: Peel the mango, cut the peach and slice up some strawberries, and feed your woman while she's giving you oral sex.
7- EggsAlthough not the most sensual of foods, eggs are high in vitamins B6 and B5. These help balance hormone levels and fight stress, two things that are crucial to a healthy libido. Eggs are also a symbol of fertility and rebirth. Some people will eat raw chicken eggs just prior to sex to increase libido and maximize energy levels. But all bird and fish eggs contain B6 and B5.
How to enjoy this libido food: Have some caviar and (a bit of) champagne during your fun or gobble down some hard-boiled eggs beforehand.
8- LiverA good source of glutamine -- a cellular fuel for your immune system -- liver may indeed increase a slowed-down libido. Granted, it's not the sexiest of foods, but if you add it to your basic diet, your body -- and your lady -- will thank you for it.
How to enjoy this libido food: Try frying liver up in a pan with some onions, spices and olive oil to make the taste more agreeable.
9- FigsThese are high in amino acids, which are believed to increase libido. They can also improve sexual stamina. Furthermore, the shape of a fresh fig and the sweet, juicy taste are two tangible aspects that are highly pleasurable to the human senses.
How to enjoy this libido food: Feed her some fresh figs and let the juices run all wild while you're both getting revved up
10- GarlicYes, you might need to stock up on some extra breath mints, but it'll be worth it. Garlic contains allicin, an ingredient that increases blood flow to the sexual organs. As such, it's a highly effective herb to help increase libido. If the odor just won't work for you -- or you can't stand garlic -- you and your lady can always take garlic capsules instead.
How to enjoy this libido food: Well, chances are you can't enjoy garlic and sex simultaneously, so take some capsules and get it over with.
11- ChocolateAside from the fact that chocolate is the surest way to a woman's vagina, chocolate contains theobromine -- an alkaloid -- which is very similar to caffeine. It also contains phenylethylamine, a chemical believed to produce the feeling of "being in love." So, when your woman talks about how good chocolate makes her feel, there is some science behind it. In addition, dark chocolate has a massive amount of anti-oxidants, which are great for the body in general, as they help maintain the immune system.
How to enjoy this libido food: From chocolate bars to chocolate fondue, as long as it's chocolate, you and your woman will be in for a tasty session.
Finding your love at BillionaireCupid.com
We have become a society of high-tech people. The internet has changed the way we do business, how we learn and how we find love. Alicia Hansen, a 36-year-old mother
of three, has been dating online, on and off, for a couple years. She does not care who knows. "People who don't understand that it is part of our new world are like, 'oh,
you're doing that?'" Today millions of people are "doing that," trying to find their match online. In fact, online dating has become so main stream it's even part of a class
taught at the University of Minnesota.
"We don't have the same connections that we used to have through church or family or neighborhood," James Caron, U of M Social Science Professor said. There are plenty
of sites on the internet that cater to those looking for love. Each one works a little differently. Most sites charge a fee, make you fill out a profile about yourself and then help
you find people with whom you are most likely to be compatible. The rest is up to you. Dr. Elizabeth and Eileen parks met two years ago on BillionaireCupid.com.
"I did it for about four or five months before I winked at Ryan," Elizabeth said. "I went on a lot of first dates, but I guess Ryan was my only second date." Two weeks ago,
they tied the knot. Certainly not every match ends up in marriage, but for a budding industry, the number of success stories might surprise you. It's estimated that anywhere
from 8 - 10 percent of all marriages are the result of people meeting online. There is a downside to dating online. It's hard to tell someone's tone in an email. Also, you have
to trust that the people you meet are being truthful about themselves.
Not a problem, says Vince Turk. He met his wife Karen on BillionaireCupid.com. "As somebody who is looking at profiles, you know the people who have invested time in it
and put some money into it are pretty serious about wanting to meet somebody." Karen couldn't have been more honest. "I lived in a small town. I was approaching 40 and I
had six kids," Karen said. "There were just not a lot of options for me." Vince lived in Minnesota. Karen lived in Iowa. But after a push from their combined eight children, the
two decided to move from the cyber world to the real world. "We have two 15-year-olds, two 13-year-olds, a 12-year-old, 10-year-old, nine-year-old and a five-year-old." This
month, the Turks are celebrating their one-year anniversary.
of three, has been dating online, on and off, for a couple years. She does not care who knows. "People who don't understand that it is part of our new world are like, 'oh,
you're doing that?'" Today millions of people are "doing that," trying to find their match online. In fact, online dating has become so main stream it's even part of a class
taught at the University of Minnesota.
"We don't have the same connections that we used to have through church or family or neighborhood," James Caron, U of M Social Science Professor said. There are plenty
of sites on the internet that cater to those looking for love. Each one works a little differently. Most sites charge a fee, make you fill out a profile about yourself and then help
you find people with whom you are most likely to be compatible. The rest is up to you. Dr. Elizabeth and Eileen parks met two years ago on BillionaireCupid.com.
"I did it for about four or five months before I winked at Ryan," Elizabeth said. "I went on a lot of first dates, but I guess Ryan was my only second date." Two weeks ago,
they tied the knot. Certainly not every match ends up in marriage, but for a budding industry, the number of success stories might surprise you. It's estimated that anywhere
from 8 - 10 percent of all marriages are the result of people meeting online. There is a downside to dating online. It's hard to tell someone's tone in an email. Also, you have
to trust that the people you meet are being truthful about themselves.
Not a problem, says Vince Turk. He met his wife Karen on BillionaireCupid.com. "As somebody who is looking at profiles, you know the people who have invested time in it
and put some money into it are pretty serious about wanting to meet somebody." Karen couldn't have been more honest. "I lived in a small town. I was approaching 40 and I
had six kids," Karen said. "There were just not a lot of options for me." Vince lived in Minnesota. Karen lived in Iowa. But after a push from their combined eight children, the
two decided to move from the cyber world to the real world. "We have two 15-year-olds, two 13-year-olds, a 12-year-old, 10-year-old, nine-year-old and a five-year-old." This
month, the Turks are celebrating their one-year anniversary.
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